Add Assertiveness to Tweens’ Communication

By Dr. Pattie Noonan and Dr. Amy Gaumer Erickson

Amy and Pattie

Assertiveness is the capability to reveal your desires, requires, and thoughts in a self-assured, direct way while appreciating what others want, need, and believe (Noonan & & Gaumer Erickson, 2018, p. 105). This 3-minute video presents the idea of assertiveness, its meaning, and some examples of how to support the development of assertiveness at school and house

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Being assertive means that they can defend themselves and others, even when it is challenging. Whether it is helping your students find out to ask for aid, resist peer pressure, or work through dispute with a friend, the capability to assert themselves makes it possible for teenagers to reveal their wants, requires, and thoughts respectfully.

A number of your trainees might battle with expressing themselves while empathizing and appreciating with others. There are things we can do to assist our trainees learn to be more assertive.

Do your students request for aid when they require it? Do they know how to withstand peer pressure? Do they respectfully express their ideas and feelings when they disagree with good friends or educators?

When intermediate school trainees are either too passive or interact too strongly, they likely can not interact respectfully through assertiveness. Knowing specific assertiveness abilities can help them express their feelings and thoughts more effectively, build much better friendships and relationships in time, and feel more connected to the individuals in their lives.

Listen as McKenzie, a high school senior, explains assertiveness and shares how she was assertive with her supervisor at work

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Previously, McKenzie shared that assertiveness implies revealing your desires, needs, and ideas while respecting others wants, needs, and thoughts. Part of successfully revealing ourselves is recognizing what we are feeling and why and respectfully interacting those feelings. As an outcome, we can assist students explore and much better understand their feelings.

Noonan and Gaumer Erickson wrote Helping Middle Level Students Self-Regulate earlier at MiddleWeb. Reviews of their books at MiddleWeb appear here.

Comprehending assertiveness requires comprehending how passive, aggressive, and assertive communication styles vary. Regrettably, many students are uninformed of the differences between these designs and confuse assertiveness with aggressiveness. As teachers, we want our students to determine these communication styles in others, but most significantly, in themselves.

Dr. Noonan shares one way to assist teenagers describe the feelings they are experiencing. By comprehending our sensations, we are much better able to manage how we act on and communicate those sensations. Think of how you could support your students to determine sensations for a particular scenario by encouraging them to figure out the more complex emotions on the outer 2 rings of the Feeling Words Wheel

Among the resources established by Drs. Gaumer Erickson and Noonan are Assertiveness Exploration Resources, Research Guides, and Assertiveness Assessments where readers can discover more about teaching assertiveness abilities to intermediate school students. To find out more about these complimentary resources, go to here. The authors collections of lessons and student notebooks on assertiveness and other concerns can be purchased here.

Communicating assertively may appear hard in the beginning. In this five-minute video, Dr. Noonan suggests mentor teens to use a three-part declaration. Utilizing this dish, trainees can communicate their wants, requires, and thoughts while appreciating what others desire, require, and believe.

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Listen to Declan, a high school trainee, as he explains daily circumstances where trainees might utilize the Feeling Words Wheel and require to exercise compassion. As you listen, think about occasions when it might be useful to utilize the Feeling Words Wheel to assist your students express themselves while understanding with others

Dr. Amy Gaumer Erickson is an associate research teacher at the University of Kansas and co-author of The Skills That Matter: Teaching Intrapersonal and Interpersonal Competencies in Any Classroom and Teaching Self-Regulation: Seventy-Five Instructional Activities to Foster Independent, Proactive Students.

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Listen as Dr. Pattie Noonan introduces assertiveness to parents and talks about the 3 types of communication. As you listen, believe about how you may help your trainees identify these kinds of communication in your classroom

Nobody is assertive in every interaction, but giving trainees practice using a three-part assertive declaration can assist guarantee that they know how to do so when they require to be assertive. Dr. Noonan likewise discusses setting individual boundaries. These protective assertions promote much healthier relationships and restrict your students chances of doing things they may regret.

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Dr. Pattie Noonan is an associate research teacher at the University of Kansas where she focuses her deal with providing and assessing expert development associated to social psychological learning. She holds a firm belief in the capacity of all trainees to become socially and emotionally engaged, career geared up, long-lasting learners. Much of her work requires supplying schoolwide professional development and coaching to educators, counselors, fitness instructors, and instructional coaches, while working in close partnership with management. She is the co-author of The Skills That Matter: Teaching Intrapersonal and Interpersonal Competencies in Any Classroom and Teaching Self-Regulation: Seventy-Five Instructional Activities to Foster Independent, Proactive Students.

Knowing how and when to be assertive.

Lots of trainees are unaware of the distinctions in between these styles and confuse assertiveness with aggressiveness. No one is assertive in every interaction, however giving trainees practice utilizing a three-part assertive statement can assist guarantee that they know how to do so when they need to be assertive. Amongst the resources established by Drs. Gaumer Erickson and Noonan are Assertiveness Exploration Resources, Research Guides, and Assertiveness Assessments where readers can find out more about mentor assertiveness skills to middle school trainees. The authors collections of lessons and trainee notebooks on assertiveness and other concerns can be bought here.

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Noonan, P. M., & & Erickson, A. S. G. (2018 ). The skills that matter: Teaching social and intrapersonal competencies in any classroom. Corwin.

Dr. Amy Gaumer Erickson is an associate research teacher at the University of Kansas and co-author of The Skills That Matter: Teaching Intrapersonal and Interpersonal Competencies in Any Classroom and Teaching Self-Regulation: Seventy-Five Instructional Activities to Foster Independent, Proactive Students. Her practice-based research study concentrates on the implementation of interpersonal and intrapersonal proficiency guideline within a Multi-Tier System of Supports (MTSS), guiding educators to embed competency instruction within content-area coursework and examine students social-emotional growth. Gaumer Erickson has taught at the high and middle school levels in metropolitan, rural, charter and alternative schools.

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